Dating today can feel like a maze of mixed signals and emotional games. From negging and breadcrumbing to lovebombing and gaslighting, emotional manipulation can leave you questioning your worth and reality. In this post, therapist Odile McKenzie, LCSW, breaks down each behavior, shares real examples, and helps you learn how to spot these red flags early—so you can protect your peace and date from a place of self-worth.

We all have parts of ourselves that we’d rather not show: the jealousy, the anger, the neediness, the shame. In psychology, these hidden pieces are often called the “shadow self.” Internal Family Systems (IFS) teaches us that these shadow parts are not flaws — they’re protectors trying to keep us safe. By turning toward, rather than away from, our shadow, we can create healing, wholeness, and greater self-compassion.

Dreams about exes or partners aren’t random—they’re reflections of your emotional needs, cultural influences, and relational patterns. For BIPOC individuals, these dreams offer powerful insight into healing and connection. Learn how to decode your dreams and deepen your self-awareness.