Dating with avoidant attachment can feel like a constant tug-of-war—wanting love, but fearing you’ll lose yourself or get hurt in the process. For women, especially Black women, the pressure to be emotionally available adds another layer. This blog explores how fear of intimacy, lack of trust, and self-protection show up in dating—and offers guidance for healing, setting boundaries, and building safe, secure relationships.

Learn how the fight, flight, freeze, and fawn trauma responses show up in your body and relationships—and discover body-based tools to expand your window of tolerance. Rooted in the work of Peter Levine and Deb Dana, this blog offers compassionate, culturally aware strategies to help you heal.