Dating with avoidant attachment can feel like a constant tug-of-war—wanting love, but fearing you’ll lose yourself or get hurt in the process. For women, especially Black women, the pressure to be emotionally available adds another layer. This blog explores how fear of intimacy, lack of trust, and self-protection show up in dating—and offers guidance for healing, setting boundaries, and building safe, secure relationships.

Want to feel grounded in love again? Start by limiting exposure to red pill and misogynoir content. These messages chip away at your self-worth. Surround yourself with people and spaces that reflect your values, not your fears. Attend events and join communities that support the kind of love you desire. You don’t have to shrink to be chosen. You’re allowed to stand in your standards and return to yourself, again and again.

Let’s be real—dating in the digital age is like living in a never-ending episode of a reality TV show you didn’t sign up for.