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  • Writer's pictureKeerthi Shetty

What Can You Share with Your Therapist?

Self discovery in therapy

Seeking therapy is a brave step towards self-discovery, personal growth, and emotional well-being.

In therapy, folks have a unique opportunity to engage in open and honest conversations with a trained professional to explore the innermost thoughts and feelings. The things you say to your therapist hold immense power in shaping your therapeutic journey.

When undergoing therapy, questions often arise, such as: Can I refuse a suggested intervention? Can I express to my therapist that I don't feel completely understood by them?

These questions underscore the need for open and honest communication in treatment, as well as the empowering aspect of expressing your needs and preferences. This hesitance could stem from the fact that no formal education teaches on how to navigate a therapeutic journey. It's normal to be apprehensive about the limits and expectations of your therapeutic relationship because therapy is a unique and individual experience. It might be daunting and make you feel nervous about saying the incorrect thing or not knowing how to express yourself.

Here, it's also important to note that therapists are professionals with the training and expertise required to provide support and guidance. They are there to provide you with a secure and accepting setting in order to explore your thoughts, feelings, and concerns.

There are several things that are encouraged and welcomed to be shared with your therapist, and it should also be normalized in our society. Some of which include:

1. Expressing the Ineffectiveness of an Intervention: It's necessary to communicate if a particular intervention or technique recommended by your therapist did not work well for you or you do not wish to imply. By being open and honest about your experience, you provide your therapist the opportunity to consider different strategies that could better suit your needs and preferences.

2. Clarifying Misunderstandings: If you feel that your therapist misunderstood or misinterpreted something you said, it's perfectly acceptable to express that. Your therapist will better understand your thoughts and feelings if you make your intentions clear or provide more context.

3. Establishing Boundaries: Therapy is about fostering a secure environment, and there may occasionally be topics or situations that you don't feel prepared or at ease to discuss. It's critical to express yourself honestly even if you don't feel like talking about a certain topic. Respecting your boundaries is essential to building a trusting therapeutic relationship.

4. Requesting Silence: Talking constantly throughout therapy isn't always necessary. There may be times when you want to experience a shared moment of silence or need some quiet time for yourself. If you want a moment of quiet contemplation, you can kindly ask your therapist to join you in that silence.

5. Expressing a Lack of Understanding: If at any point you feel that your therapist didn't fully understand your perspective or experiences, it's valuable to voice that concern. Sharing your feelings of not being understood enables your therapist to modify their approach as needed and actively work towards a deeper comprehension of your specific situation.

All that being said, therapists would not deem any of your statements as "inappropriate" since the goal is to create a nonjudgmental environment for you. This environment allows you to fully express yourself without any restrictions. While there are no specific rules for self-expression, there are certain aspects that should be normalized, and this blog intends to promote that idea.

Allow me to remind you that effective therapy involves open and sincere communication. Your therapist respects your feedback and input and will do their best to support you. A collaborative and trustworthy therapeutic relationship is fostered by sharing your experiences, preferences, boundaries, and concerns, which enhances the process of therapy as a whole.

Therapy is a collaborative work between you and your therapist.

Schedule your consultation now to begin your journey back home to your body and mind.

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